Hebraic Musing – Why Do
We Argue?
The Jews are known for arguing; they always have an
alternative opinion. I’ve said this
before – I want to meet a Rabbi with only one hand; so he won’t say “on the
other hand.” The penchant for arguing is
obvious in a Yeshiva (school for
study of Torah and Talmud) scene in the movie “Yentl.” The scene was a chaotic cacophony in a room
full of students seated in pairs across the table from each other and each
student arguing loudly and vehemently with his partner. It was chaotic! Israeli politics are no different.
Case in point: In the 1980s, an Israeli politician appeared
on the Morton Downey, Jr. Show, a controversial talk show that was known
for heated, even acrimonious debates between the show’s guests. When this
politician made his appearance, everyone was screaming at him – the guests, the
audience, everyone. As they called him names, hurled threats and voiced their
hatred of Israel, the Israeli sat completely calm.
When Morton asked him how he could sit so calmly, the politician replied: “I’m used to this. This is what our Knesset (the Israeli parliament) discussions are like every day!”
When Morton asked him how he could sit so calmly, the politician replied: “I’m used to this. This is what our Knesset (the Israeli parliament) discussions are like every day!”
Whether you go into the Knesset or into a yeshiva
you will likely find Jews screaming at each other in disagreement. Yet, in this
week’s Torah portion we learned about how Korah disagreed with Moses and
attempted to usurp the authority and truths that God Almighty had given Moshe
and Aaron. Korah’s disagreement was
actually rebellion against YHWH Himself; therefor he brought the punishment
upon himself. “Korah son of Izhar, the son of Kohath, the son of Levi, and certain
Reubenites … — became insolent and rose up against Moses.” Numbers
16:1-2 NIV Later in verse 32 “ and the earth opened its mouth and swallowed them, with their
households and all Korah's men and all their possessions.”
So, is there a right way and a wrong way to argue or
disagree?
The Talmud tells about a scholar whose study partner
Reish died, so he was assigned a new study partner. His new partner was known to be the most
brilliant man in town! But the scholar
was sad. When asked why so sad, he
replied “This man is indeed a scholar. In fact, he’s so brilliant that he can
come up with 24 ways to prove that what I’m saying is correct. But when I studied with Reish, he brought me
24 proofs that what I was saying was wrong. That's what I miss! The goal of study is not to just have someone
agree with me. I want someone to
criticize, question, and prove to me that I’m wrong. That's what uncovering the truth is about!”
KEY POINT -- Judaism differentiates between acrimonious
arguments and “arguments for the sake of heaven.” The first is destructive, the other
constructive. Jews are allowed to
disagree with each other – and they are even encouraged to question one another
– when the goal of both parties is to uncover the truth. True
intellectual integrity requires solicitation of opposing points of view. However, when it comes to arguments with
ulterior motives – such as self-aggrandizement or the desire to put someone
else down – those are the types of disputes we all need to avoid.
So next time you find yourself in a heated debate, or even
better, next time you find yourself about to enter one, ask yourself if your
argument is for the right reason. If it
isn’t, then walk away peacefully. If it
is to search out the truth, then go right ahead and argue!
Points
to ponder
Why am I always so sure I am
right?
Why do we sometimes lose
friends after arguing?
“Then
you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John
8:32
Yosef a.k.a.
Joe Brusherd July 11, 2017
Author: “Hebraic Insights –
Messages exploring the Hebrew roots of our faith”
“Biblical Marriage” Weekly “Hebraic Musings” www.InsightsByYosef.com
Note – Inspired by and excerpted from IFCJ email
June 21, 2017 -- “Arguments for Heaven’s
Sake”- The Torah portion for that week was “Korach” from Numbers 16:1–18:32.