Thursday, November 14, 2013

Musing – How to start a meaningful conversation?



Hebraic Musing – How to start a meaningful conversation?
Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,  1 Peter 3:15   NIV   People argue with my teachings and even with my preaching; but no one can argue with my testimony.  So I love sharing my testimony as a powerful witnessing tool.
However, I am concerned that we Christians get overly involved telling others that “I’m right and you are wrong”.  I learned long ago that is not the way “to make friends and influence people” (Dale Carnegie).  Instead, we need to recognize that we are usually talking to members of a very large segment of our population that has not (yet) understood the importance of acknowledging God and trying to understand His Word to us and His plan for all of His creation. 
So we find ourselves debating or negotiating from dramatically differing points of view.  Remember the business principle -- Good negotiation requires understanding the position of the other party, even to the point of being able to restate his/her position.
My friend, John R, likes to open conversations by posing questions like -- "Why is the Devil in opposition to the Kingdom of God?";  “What are we saved from, and to, and what is the purpose and the necessity of this change?"   I used to ask people “What church do you go to?” but that can be confrontational and judgmental.  So now I ask “Where are you in your spiritual walk?” That is a non-judgmental conversation starter that actually provides more information to work from.
These conversations are often triggered by mention of topics such as homosexuality, abortion, capital punishment or …..  Is the other party approaching the topic(s) from inside or outside of a Judeo/Christian moral background?  If the other person does not understand the necessity for personal sanctification (lit. "to set apart" for special use or purpose, to make holy or sacred) there is not a common ground to support discussion(s) of these topics.  Words like "holiness, sin, righteousness, judgment" have been largely abandoned.  Motivational speakers who have abandoned those terms can fill stadiums, and get mainstream media time.
Our challenge is to present the Gospel message without getting caught up in the “How do you define sin” and other divisive issues.  At the same time, we do not want to accept contemporary human preferences that conflict with God’s Word.   
How to?  Let’s start with your testimony.  They cannot argue with that reality.
Point to ponder
We sing “Go tell it on the mountain…” but how do we do that?
Are you prepared to give your personal testimony in a
45 minute, a 3 minute or a 10 second ‘elevator talk’ version? 
Have you practiced?
with gentleness and respect
Yosef   a.k.a.  Joe Brusherd             Nov. 12, 2013 (a week and 2 days late, we enjoyed Honduras)
Author of two books “Hebraic Insights” and  “Biblical Marriage”
And weekly e-mails “Hebraic Musings Yosef1@cox.net  or  www.InsightsByYosef.com

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